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sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to recognize and appriciate the people who love us. we miss out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words for you will find rewarding happiness not with the man you love but the man whom loves you more.

the best lovers are those who are capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being. to let go of someone doesnt mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find her own HAPPINESS without expecting her to come back. letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting your self free from all fears, bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart.

do not let the bitterness rare away your strengh and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let you grow with wisdom in bearing it. you may have found peace in just loving someone from a distance not expecting anything in return. but be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. we can all survive with just beautiful memories of the fast but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.

there comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. this feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. the sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just friendship, or the feelings she might have for you is just too far from how you love her. we start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.

Somebody once told me that “Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong…..it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there…
you’ll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a “right person” for you…and don’t rush things….coz somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you.”

You can never be perfect…the person you love can never be perfect…but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God…..that’s why we have marriage it’s a bond not only between you and your loved one….but also with God.
Our relationships fail not because (s)he’s not the right person….it’s because we expected too much and we decided on our own….let God do the work…you may call it waiting time….but while you are waiting…pray.

Let God guide you always…He knows better. No, He knows best.

 
Love is not what you think it is….Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of truelove. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life.
Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think we’re in love the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase “You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received…” And after a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say “You are the biggest mistake i’ve ever made for my entire life…!!!!”. Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?
Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like “Forever, till Death do us apart, etc.” would end up “Never” and “We should part ways, I’m no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!”.
Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree “She/He ain’t the right one.”
But the big question anyone could not answer is “Is she/he the right one?” and “When is the right time?” That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer. Don’t be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.
You’re right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there’s a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that you’re too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don’t give it a try. You’ll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don’t go deeper into it. You’ll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life.
It’s really hard to say goodbye though, but you can’t make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.
We call it love when we can’t leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it’s just pity. We call it love when we’re too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, its just that we’re too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past.
We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn’t something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can’t touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can’t find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.
It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don’t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.

We Are What We Repeatedly Do

An Article By Chuck Gallozzi

Aristotle taught, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Good habits are our best friends. Because we perform them unconsciously, they free us to concentrate on other useful endeavors. On the other hand, the opposite is true for bad habits. They encumber us, enslave us, and ensnare us, preventing us from moving forward in our lives. That’s why Nathaniel Emmons wrote, “Habit is either the best of servants or the worst of masters.” The paradox is, we make our habits, and then they turn around and make us.

Habits form the engine beneath the hood of our car. Good habits move us forward; bad habits set the car in reverse. Now and then we should look out the window to see which way we’re driving. Does it make any sense to keep going if we’re driving the wrong way? Those who want to improve their lives will replace their bad habits with good ones. How do we do so? We can make breaking a bad habit easier by following these five preliminary steps:

1. Become Aware Of Your Bad Habits. Since you perform them automatically, or without thinking, you’ll first have to bring them into your consciousness before you can change them.

2. Monitor The Seriousness Of Your Bad Habit. Let’s say I have the bad habit of watching too much TV. Watching TV is not intrinsically bad, but if I find household and other chores are being neglected, I have a right to suspect a bad habit has its grip on me. At the moment, I have the vague feeling that I’m spending too much time before this mesmerizing, modern invention. But how much time is “too” much? I decide to check by monitoring my behaviour and discover I average 2 1/2 hours a day. But to better appreciate the impact of this bad habit, I do some calculations and realize that I waste 17 1/2 hours a week, almost three days a month, or more than one month a year. More than one month a year? Wow, I didn’t realize I was wasting so much time! Now that I understand the gravity of the situation, I’m ready to move on to the next step.

3. Examine The Motivation. That is, ask myself, “Why do I watch so much TV?” Isn’t it to escape, to numb the pain? Escape from what? Perhaps escape from thinking about some of the chores I should be doing. Numb the pain of what? Perhaps the pain of guilt, regret, and shame for not doing some of those important chores. Oddly enough, if I do the chores, I won’t experience the pain and therefore won’t have the need to watch TV! Not only that, but as I do the chores, I will learn that the pleasure of accomplishment exceeds that of the pleasure of watching TV.

4. Examine The Consequences. What am I losing by watching too much TV? It’s time to move away from the generality of “chores” to the specifics. As I pause and think about what needs to be done, a couple of items immediately come to mind. Shouldn’t I be caulking the windows before the snow begins? And what about the front door that lets in too much cold air during the winter. If I seal it properly, I will reduce my heating costs. Now that I clearly see what’s at stake I am motivated to carry out some home-improvement, as well as self-improvement.

5. Decision Time! Now that I’ve gathered the facts, it’s time to unleash the power of choice and decide to act. Let’s pin it down. Which project will I work on first? What steps are involved? What do I need? How will I begin? Hey, this is easier than I thought; let’s start now!

How To Change Habits

I certainly have benefited in my example by following the five steps. But it’s a temporary gain. What I need to do now is form new habits. Replace bad ones with good ones. And I develop good habits in the same manner that I’ve already developed bad ones; mainly, by repetition. What is it that I will repeat? It’s a personal choice; in my case, I will replace the 2 1/2 hours of TV time with a one-hour workout at the health club, 30 minutes to and fro travel time, and one hour to work on a task that needs to be done.

To lessen my fear of getting sucked into an endless commitment to exerting EFFORT, I make a promise to myself that I will stick to my new schedule for only 30 days. After faithfully following my new regimen for a month, if I no longer feel like continuing it, I’m free to quit. Offering myself this escape clause, reduces the pressure of taking on this new commitment. After all, I can always quit in 30 days.

But guess what? I won’t quit! Why? Because it takes 30 days to develop a new habit, and by then, my daily routine would have become habitual. That’s why a certain cigarette manufacturer used to advertise, “Take our 30-day test.” Because they knew that if you smoked their brand for 30 days, you would develop a new habit and become loyal to their brand. There is, however, a catch to this one month plan. And that is, you must faithfully carry out your new program without skipping a day.

If you skip a day, you haven’t given the program a chance to work, so you have to make a decision at that point. Do I want to return to the rut I’m in, or am I sincere about wishing to change for the better? If I choose to improve myself, I will have no choice but to repeat the program from day one and carry it out for 30 consecutive days. You’ve been forewarned, so make your job easy and don’t skip a day!

By the way, you should know that, if you’re not already doing so, there is no finer habit to develop than an exercise plan. Studies have shown that those who exercise regularly develop self-discipline and self-confidence that spills over in all other areas of life. So, it’s not only about good health, but it’s about following a path that leads to endless self-improvement.

What exercise should you consider? Well, here are comments from two comics to consider. First, Fred Allen had this to say, “I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.” And Erma Bombeck offered the following quip, “The only reason I would take up jogging is so that I could hear heaving breathing again.”

Sorry for sidetracking. Now to get serious again. Every outcome has a cause. So, a powerful secret of success is to develop the habits that will cause the outcomes (goals) we wish to reach. If we do so, our success is assured. Or, as Charles J. Givens wrote, “Achieve success in any area of life by identifying the optimum strategies and repeating them until they become habits.”

Why does the rain fall from the sky?

How can a sugar pill take this pain away?

I should have known that you would break my heart.  

You've ended something that didn't have the chance to start.

Put out the stars.  

Rub out the sky.  

Look to the future.  

Wipe the teardrop from my eye.  

Shut out the sun.  

Put out the light.  

Want you to tell me how you're going to make it right.  

Why am I crying over you?  

Why? 

'Cos there's nothing else I can do.  

What do I always look a fool? 

Why? 

Wish I'd read the signs and left you well alone.

God, I want to call you but I can't pick up the phone.

Put out the stars. Rub out the sky. 

Look to the future.  

Wipe the teardrop from my eye. 

Shut out the sun. 

Bring on the night.

Want you to show me how you're going to make it right.

Why am I crying over you? 

Why? 

'Cos there's nothing else that I can do.  

Why do I always look a fool?

Why? Why am I crying over you?

 (Tell me why. why does the rain fall from the sky?)

 Why?

'Cos there's nothing else that I can do.

(Why do these tears fall from my eyes?)

Why do I always look a fool? 

(Why does the rain fall from the sky?) 

Why?

 (Oh tell me why) 

(Tell my why)

 

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